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2008-01-02T07:37:00.000-08:00

My stature is 5'8" but height is not as important as the soul. It is with great care,respect and nurturing that I will chat with you to discover the beauty within. For it is the beauty within that is most attractive. Exterior beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder, the interior beauty is something which may lie undiscovered until it is uncovered by the right individual. My inner beauty contains a wonderful sense of humour, an intelligent mind that is eager to learn to better my soul. Touch is a very important part of my human experience. Through appropriate touch we tell someone that they are important to us. A squeeze on the shoulder helps to give assurance, confidence and support to not only you but also to me. The lines on my face tell of experiences in the world. Life is not always an easy thing to live, it contains many lessons to learn along the way. It is these lessons which I have learned that make me the individual that I am today. I have a daughter whom, through life's path, I have begun establishing a relationship with. This relationship is of the utmost importance to me. I proceed gingerly as we develop a renewed love in this most special parent/child relationship. My work is not really work, it is a passion. I live life with passion and commitment. This passion and commitment is carried forward into my work. My work helps bring purpose and contentment into my life. It is filled with compassion, respect, caring and determination. My beliefs are strong within me. I live life looking for the positive in everything. This does not mean I live blindly! I have dreams and aspirations just like everyone. I aspire to be a part of creating a better world for all of us to live in. Honesty is the main key for my life, it is not necessarily monetary goods which bring me the most pleasure. It is the things that money cannot buy that fills my soul with wealth. In conclusion, I am a soul worthy of life and love. I give of myself, I receive from others. In all that I do, work and enjoyment, I give all the best I have within me. This free's my soul to live the life meant for me.

2007-12-19T08:04:00.001-08:00

FOR THOSE WHO LOVE THE PHILOSOPHY OF AMBIGUITY ...

1. DON'T SWEAT THE PETTY THINGS AND DON'T PET THE SWEATY THINGS.

2. ONE TEQUILA, TWO TEQUILA, THREE TEQUILA, FLOOR.....

3. ATHEISM IS A NON-PROPHET ORGANIZATION.

4. IF MAN EVOLVED FROM MONKEYS AND APES, WHY DO WE STILL HAVE MONKEYS AND APES?

5. THE MAIN REASON SANTA IS SO JOLLY IS BECAUSE HE KNOWS WHERE ALL THE BAD GIRLS LIVE.

6. I WENT TO A BOOKSTORE AND ASKED THE SALESMAN, 'WHERE'S THE SELF-HELP SECTION?' HE SAID IF HE TOLD ME, IT WOULD DEFEAT THE PURPOSE

7. WHAT IF THERE WERE NO HYPOTHETICAL QUESTIONS?

8. IF A DEAF PERSON SWEARS, DOES HIS MOTHER WASH HIS HANDS WITH SOAP?

9. IF SOMEONE WITH MULTIPLE PERSONALITIES THREATENS TO KILL HIMSELF, IS IT CONSIDERED A HOSTAGE SITUATION?

10. IS THERE ANOTHER WORD FOR SYNONYM?

11. WHERE DO FOREST RANGERS GO TO 'GET AWAY FROM IT ALL?'

12. WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU SEE AN ENDANGERED ANIMAL EATING AN ENDANGERED PLANT?

13. IF A PARSLEY FARMER IS SUED, CAN THEY GARNISH HIS WAGES?

14. WOULD A FLY WITHOUT WINGS BE CALLED A WALK?

15. WHY DO THEY LOCK GAS STATION BATHROOMS? ARE THEY AFRAID SOMEONE WILL CLEAN THEM?

16. IF A TURTLE DOESN'T HAVE A SHELL, IS THAT TURTLE HOMELESS OR NAKED?

17. CAN VEGETARIANS EAT ANIMAL CRACKERS?

18. IF THE POLICE ARREST A MIME, DO THEY TELL HIM HE HAS THE RIGHT TO REMAIN SILENT?

19. WHY DO THEY PUT BRAILLE ON THE DRIVE-THROUGH BANK MACHINES?

20. HOW DO THEY GET DEER TO CROSS THE ROAD ONLY AT THOSE YELLOW ROAD SIGNS?

21. WHAT WAS THE BEST THING BEFORE SLICED BREAD?

22. ONE NICE THING ABOUT EGOTISTS: THEY DON'T TALK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE.

23. DOES THE LITTLE MERMAID WEAR AN ALGEBRA?

24. DO INFANTS ENJOY INFANCY AS MUCH AS ADULTS ENJOY ADULTERY?

25. HOW IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE A CIVIL WAR?

26. IF ONE SYNCHRONIZED SWIMMER DROWNS, DO THE REST DROWN TOO?

27. IF YOU ATE BOTH PASTA AND ANTIPASTO, WOULD YOU STILL BE HUNGRY?

28. IF YOU TRY TO FAIL, AND SUCCEED, WHICH HAVE YOU DONE?

29. WHOSE CRUEL IDEA WAS IT FOR THE WORD 'LISP' TO HAVE 'S' IN IT?

30. WHY ARE HEMORRHOIDS CALLED 'HEMORRHOIDS' INSTEAD OF 'ASSTEROIDS'?

31. WHY IS IT CALLED TOURIST SEASON IF WE CAN'T SHOOT AT THEM?

32. WHY IS THERE AN EXPIRATION DATE ON SOUR CREAM?

33. IF YOU SPIN AN ORIENTAL MAN IN A CIRCLE THREE TIMES, DOES HE BECOME DISORIENTED?

34. CAN AN ATHEIST GET INSURANCE AGAINST ACTS OF GOD?

2007-12-19T07:51:00.000-08:00

YOU ARE PROUDLY SOUTH AFRICAN WHEN:

1. You call a bathing suit a "swimming costume" or Cozzie
2. You call a traffic light a "robot"
3. Employees dance in front of a building to show how unhappy they are
4. The SABC advertises highlights of the program you just finished watching
5. A cold blooded murderer is your Chief of Metro Police
6. You get cold easily. Anything below 16°C is Arctic weather
7. The penalties for lighting up in non-smoking areas are harsher than those for murder and rape
8. You know what Rooibos Tea is, even if you've never had any.
9. You can sing your national anthem in four different languages, but have no idea what it means in any of them
10. "Imported" Cuban doctors go back home because they can't handle the Health Department's poor standards
11. You know someone who knows someone who has met Nelson Mandela
12. You go to "braais" regularly, where you drink beer, eat boerewors and swim, often simultaneously
13. You know that there's nothing to do in the Free State
14. You produce a R100 note instead of your driver's licence when stopped by a traffic officer
15. You can do your monthly shopping on the pavement
16. Speeding fines are more expensive than bail
17. You hire a security guard whenever you park your car
18. You regard any steak under 300g as a snack
19. You're hesitant to shoot an attacker inside your house in case you go to jail
20. You can count the national soccer team's scores with no fingers
21. To get free electricity you have to pay a connection fee of R750
22. Hijacking cars is a profession
23. You can pay your tuition fees by holding up a placard at a traffic light
24. The petrol in your tank is probably worth more than your car
25. You enjoy reading about the sad state Zimbabwe's in because it makes you feel better about conditions in your own country
26. More people vote in a local reality TV show than in a local election
27. People have the most wonderful names: Christmas, Goodwill, Pretty, Blessing, Brilliant, Gift, Precious, Innocence, Obvious etc.
28. "Just now" can mean anything from a minute to a month
29. You continue to wait after a traffic light has turned to green to make way for minibus taxis travelling in the other direction
30. Travelling at 120 km/h you're the slowest vehicle on the highway
31. You're genuinely and pleasantly surprised whenever you find your car parked where you left it
32. A bullet train is being introduced, but the govt. can't even fix potholes
33. The last time you visited the coast you paid more in speeding fines and toll fees than you did for the entire holiday
34. You paint your car's registration on the roof
35. You have to take your own linen with you if you are admitted to a government hospital
36. You have to prove that you don't need a loan to get one
37. Prisoners go on strike
38. You don't stop at red traffic lights in case somebody hijacks your car
39. You consider it a good month if nobody you know has been robbed at gunpoint
40. You wonder if half-witted criminals like Jacob Zuma might actually do a better job than Thabo Mbeki
41. Rwandan refugees start leaving the country because the crime rate is too high

LOL LOL LOL

2007-12-19T05:33:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone

The following is something that is very close to my heart, and is even more so at this time of festivities and fun. Christmas is a time of giving and it would make my heart very glad if everyone could contribute their time to the One Organisation. Their biggest activist is Bono and they are an organisation that actively tries to alleviate the starving millions in Africa and around the world, as well as Aids campaigns and most importantly to cancel national debt of countries that cannot afford to ever repay it. They also do a lot as far as corruption goes in a lot of African countries. You dont have to donate anything but your voice in their campaign and if you look at the site, you will see that there are hundreds of charities under one umbrella.

So go and have a look at http://www.one.org/ and spread a little christmas cheer in this world.

Peace and prosperity to all of you and may 2008 be a year filled with compassion for Mother Earth and all who preside thereon.

Much love from Kelly
xxx

2007-12-19T05:24:00.000-08:00

As I've Matured...

I've learned that depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in...

I've learned that one good turn gets most of the blankets.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just jackasses.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that whatever hits the fan will not be evenly distributed.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others -
they are more screwed up than you think.

I've learned that it is not what you wear; it is how you take it off.

I've learned that you can keep vomiting long after you think you're finished.

I've learned to not sweat the petty things, and not pet the sweaty things.

I've learned that ex's are like fungus, and keep coming back.

I've learned age is a very high price to pay for maturity.

I've learned that I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy it.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do,
unless we are celebrities.

I've learned that artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

I've learned that 99% of the time when something isn't working in your house, one of your kids did it

I've learned that there is a fine line between genius and insanity.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and all the less important ones just never go away. And the real pains in the ass are permanent.

LOL

2007-12-19T05:21:00.001-08:00

The first secret of Abundant Love is the power of thought.

Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. If we want to love somebody, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize him/her when you meet him/her.

The second secret of Abundant Love is the power of respect.

You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"

The third secret of Abundant Love is the power of giving.

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practise random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what you will be able to give to them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

The fourth secret of Abundant Love is the power of friendship.

To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each others eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The fifth secret of Abundant Love is the power of touch.

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love. Touch can help heal the body and warm the heart. When you open your arms, you open your heart.

The sixth secret of Abundant Love is the power of letting go.

If you love something, let it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."

The seventh secret of Abundant Love is the power of communication.

When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and .... why are you waiting?

The eighth secret of Abundant Love is the power of commitment.

If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The ninth secret of Abundant Love is the power of passion.

Pasion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come throught physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same ; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The tenth secret of Abundant Love is the power of trust.

Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it, one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if the relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is no, think carefully before making a commitment.

Abundant and everlasting Love to all of you

Kelly
xxx

2007-12-19T05:20:00.001-08:00

Well, as most of you know, I have been in Toronto for 3 months now and am loving the big city life. What an awesome city it is too, THE most multi-cultural city in the world. Camber and I have now moved out of the shelter and are in our own apartment in Toronto. Its gorgeous and I love the fact that I have a little space of my own. Camber is also loving it and has settled into her new life here in Canada very nicely, doing very well at school. She has made friends and is loving her life.

I would like to say a huge big thank you to all my friends, both old and new for making my difficult transition a lot easier and more pleasant for me. Its been one hell of a rollercoaster ride and although some of the bits have not been all that good, on the whole it has been exciting and I look forward to each new day in our new country with a feeling of excitement as to what is waiting around the next corner for us.

Winter is approaching fast in Toronto and its going to be our first white christmas ever. Very exciting. Very cold too, lol. Our first experience of the snow was amusing to everyone in the shelter as the novelty has worn off for them a long time ago. Camber rushed out with a camera and took shots of the snow falling and also pics of her snow angels she made. Snow gives a whole new meaning to the word cold. Must find an active sport to take up this winter to keep warm. Also a good bottle of red wine, good company and a log fire will suffice too. Any takers? lol

I have to finish unpacking our house so will keep you all updated as to our progress in our adventure in Canada.

2007-12-19T05:18:00.000-08:00

I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life.'

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn!

2007-12-19T05:17:00.001-08:00

Only You

A person can make you feel high,
A person can make you feel low.
But only you can decide,
Which way you want to go.

A person can hurt you mentally,
A person can hurt you physically.
But only you can place,
A limit on your abilities.

A person can cause drama,
A person can cause a situation.
But only you can create,
Your own reputation.

A person can make you laugh,
A person can make you cry.
But only you can make,
Decisions for your life.

So
Don't live by what people do,
But live by what you know is true.

2007-12-19T05:14:00.001-08:00

This is an actual letter sent to the brand manager of Proctor and Gamble...

AN OPEN LETTER TO MR. JAMES THATCHER, BRAND MANAGER, PROCTER & GAMBLE.
- - - -
Dear Mr. Thatcher,

I have been a loyal user of your Always maxi pads for over 20
years, and I appreciate many of their features. Why, without the LeakGuard Core or Dri-Weave absorbency, I'd probably never go horseback riding or salsa dancing and I'd certainly steer clear of running up and down the beach in tight, white shorts. But my favorite feature has to be your revolutionary Flexi-Wings.

Kudos on being the only company smart enough to realize how crucial it is that maxi-pads be aerodynamic. I can't tell you how safe and secure I feel each month knowing there's a little F-16 in my pants. Have you ever had a menstrual period, Mr. Thatcher? Ever suffered from "the curse"? I'm guessing you haven't. Well, my "time of the month" is
starting right now. As I type, I can already feel hormonal forces violently surging through my body. Just a few minutes from now, my body will adjust and I'll be transformed into what my husband likes to call "an
inbred hillbilly with knife skills." Isn't the human body amazing?

As brand manager in the feminine-hygiene division, you've no doubt seen quite a bit of research on what exactly happens during your customers monthly visits from Aunt Flo. Therefore, you must know about the bloating, puffiness, and cramping we endure and about our intense mood
swings, crying jags, and out-of-control behavior. You surely realize it's a tough time for most women. In fact, only last week, my friend Jennifer fought the violent urge to shove her boyfriend's balls into a George Foreman Grill just because he told her he thought Grey's Anatomy was written by drunken chimps. Crazy! The point is, sir, you of all people
must realize that America is just crawling with homicidal maniacs in capri pants.

Which brings me to the reason for my letter. Last month, while in the throes of cramping so painful I wanted to reach inside my body and yank out my uterus, I opened an Always maxi pad, and there, printed on the adhesive backing, were these words:"Have a Happy Period."

Are you f---ing kidding me? What I mean is, does any part of
your tiny middle-manager brain really think happiness - actual smiling, laughing happiness - is possible during a menstrual period? Did anything mentioned above sound the least bit pleasurable? Well, did it, James?

FYI, unless you're some kind of sick freak girl, there will
never be anything "happy" about a day in which you have to jack yourself up on Motrin and Kahlua and lock yourself in your house just so you don't march down to the local Walgreens armed with a hunting rifle and a sketchy
plan to end your life in a blaze of glory. For the love of God, pull your head out, man. If you just have to slap a moronic message on a maxi pad, wouldn't it make more sense to
say something that's actually pertinent, like "Put Down the Hammer" or "Vehicular Manslaughter Is Wrong"? Or are you just picking on us? Sir, please inform your accounting department that, effective immediately, there will be an $8 drop in monthly profits, for I have chosen to take my
maxi-pad business elsewhere. And though I will certainly miss your Flexi-Wings, I will not for one minute miss your brand of condescending crap. And that's a promise I will keep.

Always.Best,
Wendi Aarons
Austin , TX

All I can say to this is YOU GO GIRL!!!! Lmao

2007-12-19T05:07:00.000-08:00

A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you
or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can't always be
together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.

2007-12-09T14:14:00.000-08:00

Blogging is nothing new to me as I have been doing it on other sites, but this one is new and fresh and I have promised myself to only post all the positive stuff here, the other one got weighed down with so much crap that I decided a change was as good as a holiday. Coupled with the fact that I am in a new country, starting a new life, a new blog is most definately on the cards. My friend Sheena from South Africa, my old hometown, is on here and as I love her blog so much, and have been an avid reader for ages, decided to make it easier to read her stuff while posting my own.

So here goes ......

This is a post that I had on my very first blog and I think it is appropriate that I make it the first post here too. Its a really positive piece and I hope it brings inspiration to all who read it.

Nov 27, 2006, 05:24

A time comes in your life when you finally get it...

When in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out -ENOUGH!!

Enough fighting or crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world with new eyes.

This is your awakening. You realize its time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there are no fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and thats Okay (everyone is entitled to their own views and opinions) and you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new-found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop bitching and complaining about the things other people did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people dont always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there for you and that its not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own, and take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you learn to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties, and in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way that you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the crap you have been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where you should shop, and what you should drive and how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with and who you should marry and what you should expect from a marriage, the importance of having and raising children and last but not least, what you owe your parents!!

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view and you begin re-assessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you have outgrown or should never have bought into in the first place, and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving, that we receive. That there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop manouvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundations upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don't know everything, that its not your job to save the world, and you cannot teach a pig to sing (sorry Babe). You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one that you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake, and then you learn about love.

Romantic love and familial love, how to love, how to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship.

You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or more important because of the man on your arm, or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not what you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that as people grow and change, so it is with love... and you learn that you dont have the right to demand love on your terms ... just to make you happy. And, you learn that alone, does not mean lonely...

You look in the mirror and realize that you will never be a perfect size and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing on how you "stack up".

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK ... and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things that you want ... and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less. And, you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with his touch ... and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect. And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and creates doubts and fears. So you take more time to rest. And just as food fuels the body, so laughter fuels the soul. So you take more time to laugh and play.

You learn, for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve ... and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no-one can do it all alone and you learn to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great thief of all time, fear itself!! You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens, you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away your right to live life on your terms. And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isnt always fair, you dont always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting good people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things.

You learn to deal with evil in its most primal state - ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a warm soft bed, a long hot shower.

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your hearts desire. You hang a windchime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility and opportunity.

Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live, as best you can.

Thats all for now folks, hope to see you all really soon